Be a Smart Parent

In our indian culture, our entire life is divided in four part based on age; Balyavastha, Kishoravastha, Kumaravastha/Yuvavastha, Vanprastha. Out of them, today I am going to publish my views on Kumaravastha / Yuvavastha.

As soon as a boy/girl enters in Yuvavastha, parent/guardian start matrimonial process. Once the relation is fixed called engagement, all family members start preparation like shopping, relative list, fixing different vendors like pandal, caterers, band or music party etc. Boy and girl start enjoying their golden period with each other. Most of the couple enjoys saying bollywood style dialogs, some hugs, kisses bla...bla...bla. Very few couple communicates for their future planning. For them marriage is just to enjoy romance, sex etc. Somebody says it is social license to enjoy sex with legal partner. Ok fine. Due to their hidden appetite for sex we can understand the curiosity, the excitement, the feelings of touch etc. But what after that? Elders start asking for issue, and couple just blindly starts process to produce a child just to prove their normalcy. Some couple delays pregnancy to enjoy more or to understand each other more. But my question is are they seriously want a child? Are they mentally prepared for child? Do they know how different their life will be after delivering a child? Answer is just no. In most of the cases it is just mother's responsibility, father's life as usual. No change.

In many cases, without mental alignment between husband and wife, they just produce the child and after that they start fighting with each other which either ends with life of any one, or some relations break in between. In case where parents fight life time and child grows up in that environment will create very bad impact in child's mind. Some child at their adult age deny for marriage just because the result of marriage they saw when they were growing with their parents.

My main sympathy is with those children whose parents split before their teenage or during their teenage. Child has to stay with any one of them as per their understanding, or in some cases as per court order. Is child actually responsible for this situation? For a child mother and father both is equally important, child loves both of them, child requires both of them. Who restricts them from their right? Is this fair? Where is human rights commission, who cares for each and every human's rights?

In some cases, parents split and either both get married with another or one of them get married with another with her/his child. Do anyone asks to their child about their decision? Do anyone takes consent of their child for re-marriage? Answer is no. What is future of a child after re-marriage do they think before take such an important decision? What will be psychological impact on a child, do anyone of them think about that? Answer is no. Then what is the meaning of producing a child? Just for your few minutes enjoyment a child will suffer for entire life. I think the child produce without proper planning or proper mental alignment between husband and wife is nothing but a child birth as a byproduct, and I strongly believe that all youngsters have to think about this very seriously before producing a child on this universe.